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 Author's introduction to 'Stop Struggling and Start Living - Rules of the Game'
In the years that I have shared the principles of 'Stop Struggling and Start Living - Rules of the Game' in seminars or in private counseling sessions, I was often asked: Why don't you write a book?

There is a time for everything, and when the time for writing the book came, there was no stopping the flow of it.

On a personal level, writing 'Stop Struggling and Start Living - Rules of the Game' was an awe inspiring experience, a deeply moving and creative journey that led me consciously into recesses of my mind that opened with great clarity and focus.

If you are overwhelmed by emotional, mental or financial struggle, I wrote this book for you. Even if you just feel a constant pressure, or believe that you deserve more than what you presently have, be it in love, material goods or understanding, I wrote this book for you. We have a birthright to happiness, and by understanding the Stop Struggling and Start Living - Rules of the Game, we can learn how to overcome constant, needless struggle.

When you learn how to choose and expect happiness – then you will attract that.

The purpose of the book is further to assist those who understand that growth and self-development is an intensely personal journey, and without a doubt, a personal effort. It is a solitary path, which only you can walk, but the destination leads far beyond the boundaries of this planet…

My hope is that you will begin to take the power and control over your own life back and above all, see the beauty that is inside of you and all others.

If you look closely, you will recognize the clues, you'll see the fingerprints and you'll be able to follow the footprints as they are revealed to you, one by one in your own life.

If you internalize only one of these Rules, I know the quality of your life will improve.

My wish for you is that you will claim what is yours.

Above all, I hope you choose happiness, for it cannot choose you.

Elfreda Pretorius
Oakville, ON, Canada.
April 2004


 Foreword to 'Stop Struggling and Start Living - Rules of the Game' by Judy Suke
As I read 'Stop Struggling and Start Living - Rules of the Game' page by page, line by line, was overwhelmed by various emotions following the story, and I was intensely involved, as it revealed the journey of a man through his darkest time towards the light. I found the story heart wrenching at times, warm at others, but in the final analysis, tremendously uplifting. I was totally engrossed in the words and awed by the skill with which Elfreda weaved the secrets and lessons to the 'Stop Struggling and Start Living - Rules of the Game' into each chapter.

When I first met Elfreda Pretorius, I was struck by her smile and the energy that seemed to enter the room with her. I had heard her referred to as, “The Energy Lady”, a person who strongly believed in, and taught, The Energy Principles of the universe. People told me that her message was powerful. However, as I sat through that first seminar, I was not prepared for the passion with which she tells her story and delivers her wisdom. It was amazing. She brought that same passion and energy to this book. I found myself constantly shouting, “Yes!” in my mind. I finished the book, feeling relieved that all the answers were there, and inspired by the fact that they were simple and easy for me to follow.

I admire her for her ability to write such a beautiful, spellbinding and moving story that at the same time, delivers an extraordinary message, a message that will help people to understand forgiveness, compassion and the power of inner direction.

Many people wander through life searching for answers, and finding only empty promises in the religions, self-help groups, and self-help books that they explore. These individuals especially, will find comfort in the pages of this book. I think it is a book that will be read and reread by people who want to truly grasp the lessons and start their own journey toward a better life.

In recommending this book, I feel that I am meeting part of my mission in life, to bring hope to the people around the world. I praise Elfreda, for sharing her insights and lessons with all of us, through the spiritual wisdom of this book. I thank her for being a teacher, a healer, and a friend.

Judy Suke
President, Triangle Seminars
Professional Speaker, Entertainer and Author
Distinguished Toastmaster
Member of the National Speakers Association
Waterdown , Ontario , Canada

About 'Stop Struggling and Start Living - Rules of the Game'

Are you tired of struggling through life but hope tomorrow will be better? Well, it will not be any different from today, unless you learn and apply the Stop Struggling and Start Living - Rules of the Game. This beautiful novel teaches us the principles and practical steps we need to assume control of our lives and begin to soar. It is exceptional to come across people who know how to find joy in every day. It is unusual to see people who do not bear grudges, people who choose their responses and reactions and people who are confidently moving towards their dreams and goals. This book is not for them. It is for the rest of us who live in various stages of conscious or unconscious victim hood.

This was also Sam's plight until that mysterious night on the mountain. Sam was ready to quit in a dramatic and final way. Many people quit from the Game of Life through defeatist behavior and then look for a savior of some kind, a relative, the unknown friend, a lottery ticket to rescue them.

In 'Stop Struggling and Start Living - Rules of the Game' you will learn:

  • Your life is your own responsibility. Always. No exceptions.
  • There are Universal Laws and truths that underscore conscious living. You have to apply these Laws to live your life the way you intend.
  • Your greatest powers are unlocked by discovering the magic of solution thinking.
  • How to transform automatic negative reactions into deliberate positive responses.
  • The language of the universe is energy and miracles unfold by learning how to communicate in - and interpret this language.
  • The principles that underscore healing, long lasting relationships and attracting wealth.
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What others are saying:
In our time this is going to be a very important book for many who are looking for answers. Presented with an intriguing story, it challenges many of the old paradigms of life, but is clear in its guidelines and delivers on the promise of true self-help. A book that will be read and read again.

Dan Poynter
Author of more than 100 books
Para Publishing
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In my opinion this book is the next Celestine Prophecy. I think 'Stop Struggling and Start Living - Rules of the Game' will strongly affect every reader, and the total impact of the words will give them the strength to overcome their demons, the freedom to follow their hearts, and the courage to live their dreams.

Judy Suke 
President, Triangle Seminars
Professional Speaker, Entertainer and Author
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In a time of social unrest, political upheaval and religious turmoil, Elfreda Pretorius invites us to ask ourselves, through conversations with her characters, to have faith in our own individual essence, to create our own destiny thus impacting the greater whole of the universe and all things in it. This book is a gift to mankind. 
Brilliantly told by a talented author.

Sandy Smeenk
Oakville , Ontario
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The universe works in mysterious ways ....well, not anymore!  Knowing the 'Stop Struggling and Start Living - Rules of the Game,' we all now have the opportunity to live a life of choice.  It truly is all about the choices we make, understanding our responsibility, and learning how to take control – understanding energy and how it works.

It appears to be so simple, yet many of us just don't get it, and consequently we struggle.

Why?  We ask.  

The secrets are in this book.  I have lived without knowing about the Rules for a long time, but now I incorporate them into my life daily, and wonderful things continue to happen and amaze me.  

We are entitled to have control over our lives.  If you follow these simple, yet powerful Rules – you will never look back.  Simply put - these have been game changers for my life and they will do the same for you.

Rose Marie Gage,
Burlington , Ontario , Canada.
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The setting is extraordinary, the teaching is profound.  Atop Table Mountain shrouded in fog and mist, together with Sam we meet the mysterious stranger who reveals the essence of conscious living to a desperate man.

Even at this point in my personal quest, I was amazed at how Pretorius' compelling story beckoned me to read on, rediscover and reassess my life strategies.

Surprising, convincing and satisfying, it clarifies many of life's challenges to happiness and removes roadblocks to personal success.  I recommend it to anyone who wants to improve the quality of their life, their personal
relationships, as well as their relationship to the world we live in.

Susan Hayden
Professor- Visual Merchandising and Marketing, Sheridan Institute of
Technology and Higher Learning
Owner- Susan Hayden, Visual Marketing
Primitive/Figurative Fine Art
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Elfreda's insatiable quest for knowledge of the esoteric and spiritual dimension led her on an exciting but sometimes solitary journey, but she never backed away from the most important goal in her life. 

Having known her professionally through our training centre, and personally for over twelve years, ensured that her enthusiasm rubbed off and her unique ability to communicate her discoveries made it a very fruitful and enduring relationship.

The principles embodied in 'Stop Struggling and Start Living - Rules of the Game' enabled us to lead full and rewarding lives and we hope that all her readers will share this joy of living.

Sandi and Ian Fikuart,
Brighton , England
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I hope that 'Stop Struggling and Start Living - Rules of the Game' will be read by spiritual protagonists of every stripe. I hope this book comes to the attention of psychiatrists, psychologists and CEOs; everyone who is truly interested in maximizing individual spiritual growth and the organizational benefits derived there from. This book is a 'must read' for all individuals focused on inner development.  

Thomas A. Smeenk, B.A.
CEO, Proactive Capital Partners
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Congratulations on bringing the world such a fine gift. It will lead many towards the light.

'Stop Struggling and Start Living - Rules of the Game' is a brilliant testimony to all the possibilities that reside in human beings. I am thrilled at its message and I am certain that other readers will find it as fascinating and as helpful as I have. The characters bring beautiful, practical messages to us and if we but learn to listen to their wisdom, we would find our lives unfolding in a far diviner way.

The human spirit begins to soar, when truth is discovered that opens the door for higher understanding. This book embodies the reality of the ever evolving consciousness and awareness of the human being. It consists of powerful tools to help us cope with all of life's challenges. Everybody should know the Stop Struggling and Start Living - Rules of the Game!

John Harricharan
Award-winning author of the bestseller, When You Can Walk on Water, Take the Boat.
Also: Morning has been coming, all night long.